Yin Yang Weekend

How was your weekend? Mine was somewhat yin and yang. It was a happy and memorable weekend in both positive and negative way.

Happy stories first…

I am one proud mom-ma today. Liapot just won her first ever Best in Halloween Costume award last Saturday and I couldn’t be happier! It was the first among the many Halloween Parties that we plan to attend to in the coming days. Yes, career kung career. It may sound OA to some, but believe me -- you’ll never know what motherhood can do to you! I won’t be talking about that winning proud mom-me moment today as there will be a separate entry for that *wink-wink*

Anyhow, most working parents can relate to me about my love for weekends. It’s the only time of the week that we get to spend with our daughter without worrying about getting late in the office. Sundays are extra special as we get to bring Liapot to swimming. To complement each other’s talent, it has always been hubby with her in the pool, and me taking over the camera :)

Photos! Photos! … in the past Sundays: 

 

Both were posted on my IG account (follow me @PLANETMARSY)

Yesterday, we also went to Powerplant Mall while waiting for hubby who was having a meeting that afternoon. I didn’t know until yesterday that the masses on Sunday afternoons are now being held at the Rockwell Tent – the same tent that holds bazaars and wedding receptions. It was very convenient as there are plenty of seats and can accommodate more people that the chapel, plus it’s airconditioned and pets and strollers are allowed inside. 

As of this writing, here are the mass schedules:

Now for the yin – a kinda heartbreaking mom-me moment.

We arrived at the Tent at 4:20PM for the 4:45PM mass and opted to get seats at the far end of the tent to make sure we’ll be able to bring Lia outside easily in case she gets cranky. Few minutes after we were seated, a family came and occupied the seats in front of us. With the family are two girls, ages three and five based on my estimate. Actually, both our families were quite familiar with each other as we both attended the Gymboree Halloween Party last Saturday. So when the girls arrived, my little girl immediately went to them. The nannies instructed the two girls to say hi to Lia. My daughter, in her giddy mood went toward the younger girl to hug her, like what she usually does when she sees bigger kids, even strangers. But the other girl, who seems to be not in her best mood, ignored my little girl and said “Bad Lia”.

My daughter, who hates hearing the word “B-A-D” almost fainted in an instant. Good thing, Yaya Weng was quick enough to scoop her before she did all her acrobats and wailings. The mommy of the kids was also kind enough to correct her daughter, she told the little girl to say “I love you Lia”. But the little girl, too young just like my daughter, is a little not in the mood so she kept on saying otherwise. I couldn’t blame the kid, she doesn’t know my daughter so why would she take her hug?

And because of that, Lia stayed outside the tent throughout the mass.

Deep sigh.

My realizations from that incident:

1. Kids are kids, no matter how “all-knowing” they all look now, they still definitely need guidance from their parents/nannies. It was a heartbreaking moment for me to see my kid being ignored by other kid, but good thing the other Mommy didn’t tolerate her kid as she probably have felt the pinch in my heart. Mommy instincts as they say.
2. I shouldn’t make patol to kids, because kids usually do not mean harm. Sometimes they just don’t know yet how to react, but that doesn’t mean they cannot be corrected. Which reminds me, Lia once spank her classmate’s face out of her gigil. We immediately pulled her away of the scene and apologized to the parent.
3. I cannot always fight for my daughter’s battles. No matter how much I wanted to make the world perfect for her, there will always be “dementors” who will try to put her down. But no matter what, I will always be here to support and guide her.
4. I should never let Lia approach strangers – kids or adults alike. Why? Because every person has a mood, and no matter how sincere and pure my daughter’s intention is, you’d never know how people would react.
5. I should start teaching Lia that hugging anyone is not always right. Last Friday, she hugged a six-year-old girl and held her hands like she was stealing the latter from her Mom so they can play “jump-jump-jump”. Thank heavens for kids like her who was kind enough to ride on my daughter’s “trip” :)
6. I must schedule regular play dates (Ayt, mommies?)
7. Or, for a long-term permanent solution, I should seriously sit down with hubby and discuss about our biggest project soon: Lia’s playmate(s)! Ayayay!